Project BraveHeart and Steel Magnolias

Braveheart probably reminds you these lines, if you have watched the movie…

“Aye, fight and you may die. Run, and you’ll live… at least a while. And dying in your beds, many years from now, would you be willin’ to trade ALL the days, from this day to that, for one chance, just one chance, to come back here and tell our enemies that they may take our lives, but they’ll never take… OUR FREEDOM!”

or maybe even this especially if you are mom born in the late 70s or 80s…

Carebear Braveheart Lion the self-appointed leader of CareBear Cousins

How about ‘Steel Magnolias’ then? The term actually refers to a Southern woman who is strong and independent, yet very feminine. A Hollywood movie was also created using the same description. With this new series of bloghops that I will be hosting, ‘Project BraveHeart and Steel Magnolias’, it is really not about movies or care bears. I will be ‘adopting’ these terms for a series on how Christian moms nurture our children in the areas of Character Development.


Do look out for these posts are lined up in these blogs : 5 Feb 2013 – Blogging here at 12 Feb 2013 – Sarah of 19 Feb 2013 – Elisa of 26 Feb 2013 – Sharon of 5th Mar 2013 – Jean of

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Photo *Heart* Fridays – Savoring the Season

He is growing up fast. Lately it is more and more obvious that the baby in him is replaced by sharp retorts and ‘I can do it by myself, mommy!” Despite all these, he is still that tender-hearted little boy.

He still plants random kisses on my cheek, sticks really close to me while we are watching his TV programmes together and his hand always searches for my arm to hold, under the blanket in the mornings.

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He will be turning 6 in 2 months.

Instead of getting all nervous about him starting primary school next year, and worry about him not being academically prepared for the new year. I have decided that I will take a step back, and he will only attend school 4 times a week in his K2 year.

And we are going to spend more quality time together.

Childhood is fleeting and I think this is an understatement. I often feel all melancholic about these fleeting moments and wonder what he will remember from our days together. Will he remember the hugs, the silly jokes, fun and laughter? Or will he remember the not so pleasant moments, like my impatience, or times when we bicker?

I am sure that there will be plenty of things that I have said before that he will dismiss or forget as he grows older. But I will hope that he will internalize what I have taught him, things that are the most important to me. The ones that I hope he will be able to carry with him to guide him throughout his life.

About how strong and smart he is, how sensitive and considerate he can be to his loved ones and his friends. About how much he needs to depend on God, and have the faith that He is a good God that always protects and provides for him.

We will be spending more time together this year to learn about that one thing that is the most important to me; learning about our hearts and character, and most importantly how we can develop our relationship with our Creator.

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Science Object Lessons with K – ‘Let your light shine.’

So what are the moments that you are savoring this season?


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Have you done your Best?

LSconct 1The King Ant at his K1 Speech and Drama performance in Nov 2012

1 month before the performance, I asked him if he could remember his lines. He recited them for me without referring to the handouts and was so confident that he could remember.

A week before the performance, I asked him again. And he told me that it was easy and he would have no problems.

He was ready, or so I thought.

Watch the video (excuse the shakiness :P) and see how his performance turned out. K is the tallest one in the group of yellow ‘ants’, who was wearing a gold ‘bib’.

Looked like he was being particular about where the mic was placed and did not want to say his lines until the mic was leveled to his face, isn’t it?

His performance was far from perfect and it did generate some laughs from the audience along the way. Hb and I were disappointed when we finally received the DVD recently, and realized that the videographer edited the capture and it became a boring, almost perfect sketch in the video. Regardless of the result of the performance, it was a memorable experience for hb and I. While K on the other hand, thought that that his performance must have been quite a disappointment for us to watch.

He was really moody after the performance (photo taken above), right after the concert ended. He didn’t tell us why until we got home that night. Just before bedtime that same evening, he admitted that he actually forgot his lines, and he told me that he would not want to watch the video as his performance was horrible.

Our conversation that evening;

Mom :   “Do you think you tried your best that night?”

K      :     “I don’t think I tried my best. I did not practice my lines properly.”

Mom :   “You know that you didn’t put in your best effort, and why it didn’t turn out well. We are not disappointed in your performance on stage. It’s normal to make mistakes. We just want to make sure that you understand that you need to take the initiative to practice your lines. It is only when you know you tried your best, and if you still made some mistakes at your performance, you can be satisfied that you have gave your best. That’s all that matters. .”


Hb and I have already discovered a while back that K has issues with his self-motivation and initiative. We are using opportunities like these for him to experience failure and disappointment, so as to learn the importance of having initiative and be driven by his self-motivation.

Charlotte Mason has put it so aptly in her quote that there is a downside when children are nurtured to be overly dependent on external motivation and rewards.

‘Children must Stand or Fall by their own Efforts.––In another way, more within our present control, we do not let children alone enough in their work. We prod them continually and do not let them stand or fall by their own efforts. One of the features, and one of the disastrous features, of modern society, is that, in our laziness, we depend upon prodders and encourage a vast system of prodding. We are prodded to our social duties, to our charitable duties, and to our religious duties. If we pay a subscription to a charity, we expect the secretary to prod us when it becomes due. If we attend a meeting, do we often do so of our own spontaneous will, or because somebody asks us to go and reminds us half a dozen times of the day and the hour? Perhaps it is a result of the hurry of the age that there is a curious division of labour, and society falls into those who prod and those who are prodded. Not that anybody prods in all directions, nor that anybody else offers himself entirely as a pincushion. It is more true, perhaps, to say that we all prod, and that we are all prodded. Now, an occasional prick is stimulating and wholesome, but the vis inertiae of human nature is such that we would rather lean up against a wall of spikes than not lean at all. What we must guard against in the training of children is the danger of their getting into the habit of being prodded to every duty and every effort. Our whole system of school policy is largely a system of prods. Marks, prizes, exhibitions, are all prods; and a system of prodding is apt to obscure the meaning of must and ought for the boy or girl who gets into the habit of mental and moral lolling up against his prods.’ – Charlotte Mason Chapter 4, Volume 3


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